A saint once asked his disciples, “Why do people shout at each other when they are upset? “
His disciples thought for a while, and one of them said, “Because we lose our calm, and so we shout.”
The saint replied, “Yes, but why they need to shout when the other person is just next to you? Why is it not possible to speak with a soft voice when you are angry?”
The disciples gave some creative answers which did not satisfy the saint.
Finally the saint explained to them, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are very distant. To cover that distance they must shout to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder the need becomes to reach across that great distance.”
Then the saint added, “When two people are in love they usually talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is small so they only need to whisper, and they become even closer to each other in love. Finally they need not even whisper, they just look at each other in silence. That’s how close two people are when they love each other.”